28 year old guy seeking kind 40ish year old man - Stoke-on-Trent

I’m looking for a good man or perhaps a few good men to bring a little more warmth, excitement and companionship into my life.

I’m drawn to people who are kind, respectful, professional and who genuinely enjoy talking. Someone who can tell me about something they’re passionate about, or disappear down an interesting conversational rabbit hole with me is far more appealing than someone simply looking for a vanilla relationship.

My life is rather removed from what most people would consider ordinary, and at times that can make me feel surprisingly isolated. I’d really like to have someone in my life whose company I look forward to, somebody I can talk to, get to know and share a genuine connection with, without everything having to lead towards the final "why won't you let me fuck you?".

I’m not looking for a committed relationship, but I am looking for something genuine. I want to feel that the person I’m spending time with actually enjoys me for me and cares about me as a person.

I should be upfront about the physical side of things: I don’t have sex with men, and I’m very uncomfortable around male nudity and penises. That simply isn’t something I’m going to change my mind about. I am, however, comfortable with a more unusual dynamic where I might be naked while the man remains fully clothed and touches me. This is known as a "CMNM relationship". CMNM stands for Clothed Male Naked Male. I would be the naked male so you would need to be the clothed male. I realise that won’t suit everyone, and that’s completely fine. I’d much rather be clear about it from the beginning though.

At this point in my life, what I’m really craving is some kind of meaningful emotional connection. Nothing dramatic or overly complicated. Just someone kind, interesting and affectionate who genuinely enjoys having me around.

I’m particularly interested in men in their 40s or older. I’m not looking for someone my own age or younger, and I mentioned 40ish because that feels like a particularly good fit for the sort of companionship / dynamic I have in mind.

If you have an interesting career that is definitely a bonus. I once had an arrangement with an engineer who could talk for hours about all sorts of fascinating things, and I absolutely loved those conversations. Unfortunately, he eventually started pushing the relationship further and further towards fucking, which was where things fell apart.

So if you’re considering contacting me, the most important thing to understand is that I’m not going to fit neatly into conventional expectations around sex or relationships. If you’re someone who can appreciate that and who is more interested in getting to know an unusual person than trying to make me conform to what you normally expect I’d genuinely love to hear from you.

If you send me a message giving a rough idea of who you are and let me know you actually read my ad that would be amazing too. A lot of people on these kinds of websites just respond to every ad they see and it feels exhausting at times interviewing people to find out if they actually read everything that I've writen or not. If you want to stand out you know what to do.
Luke